Triggers: A Path to Deeper Connections (Including Yourself)

We all have triggers

(At least I hope that I'm not the only one... :))

In our journey of life, we often get confronted by triggers that challenge us and our connections with those closest to us, including ourselves. 

Whether it's fear of vulnerability (we all have it), difficulties in communication (we're all learning), or a struggle with past traumas (we all do) - managing and (ultimately) healing triggers are important for the sake of our own well-being and of our relationships. 

In this blog post, we'll explore the nature of triggers, validate their existence and impact, and offer a practical quick win to support you on your path.

Triggers mean well

Triggers are emotional responses rooted in our past experiences that can cause an intense reaction in the moment. They often live in unhealed wounds, fears, or unresolved conflicts. Their job is to protect us from perceived harm for the sake of survival... until Heart-Awareness can take over in looking after us.

Validating Your Triggers

It's beneficial to acknowledge that triggers are a natural part of the human experience, and feeling triggered does not indicate weakness or failure. Rather, triggers provide valuable insights into areas that require attention and healing. By offering understanding and compassion towards ourselves, we create a safe inner space for growth and transformation.

A Quick Win: 

Step #1: Recall a recent incident where you felt triggered or experienced discomfort in a close relationship. 

Step #2: Take a few moments to slow down in your imagination and sense the subtle signs that indicated you were getting triggered. 

Step #3: Pay attention to physical sensations, emotions, and thoughts that emerged. 

This awareness will empower you to respond to your deeper needs rather than react in similar situations.

Step #4: In your imagination, when you notice the first subtle signs of getting triggered, imagine noticing the tension in your body-mind and invite it to come closer.

Step #5: Imagine deepening your attention into the feeling/sensations of the hurt /contraction in your body by breathing into it. Inhale deeply, exhale slowly, longer than the inhale.

This simple act of "inviting the tension to exist" helps calm the nervous system 

and creates a space between your awareness and the scared part that got triggered, and this is often enough to escape difficult situations. 

Of course, deep healing is the long-term answer... healing your trauma will automatically take care of these very strong, and often unpredictable triggers.

Slowing down in the imagination and practicing consciously relating to your inner world, you become more confident to fulfil your purpose and calling, and create closeness with those closest.

Remember, you were born for such a time as this.

This process takes time and kindness to yourself as you heal and develop so you may emerge as your true self (the way you know yourself to be in your deepest secrets and imaginations of your greatness).

I am here to support you along the way.

Love, Truth, and Peace,

Ildiko <3