Do you trust Life?
Maybe you do... more than you realise... in your heart of hearts.
And it's okay that the hurt parts, the parts of you that were traumatised don't trust life. Very understandable, as hurt carried a message of distrust.
I used to feel so unsafe most, if not all of the time.
And I didn't know how anybody could feel safe on this earth in this life... At any moment, an earthquake, a fire, a storm, hail, a landslide. At any moment, someone could turn around and harm me, or run me over with their car.
I vividly remember sharing my fears with a teacher on an early dawn Zoom call.
He asked me a simple question, "Are you safe now?"
I instantly replied, "No, I'm not. Anything could happen... The roof of the house could collapse, or a tree could fall on our house."
Then, he asked me something wise,
"But are you safe ENOUGH?"
That single question shifted my perception, my mind.
I realized that I was safe enough. Something clicked inside me, and I understood that everything exists on a spectrum.
Those idealistic expectations from my childhood set me up to seek extremes. And I know I am not alone with this type of inherited way of thinking.
Perfectionism often stems from this mindset.
If you struggle with this, it's not your fault, and scolding yourself won't bring about permanent change.
When fear or uncertainty shakes your heart and mind,
take a moment to look around, listen to the sounds, and let your senses come to life. Check if you are safe enough in that moment, and if you are, place your hand on your heart and reassure your body and mind: "I'm here. It's safe enough. Right now, it's safe enough."
I hope this is helpful. Leave me a comment below.